YOU ASKED: Hello, I would like to say that I LOVE your blog and look forward to your daily postings! I would like your opinion on potty training! I know it is a subject that everyone feels differently on, but I am stuck! I have a little boy, 27 months. I started potty training him at 25 months, we were doing GREAT, and went four days without accidents other then sleeping at night. Now he will only go on the potty if he is at home and pant-less– Oh no!
My question to you, is how did you handle potty training with your oldest, how long did it take, and did he ever regress? Any words of encouragement? Thanks!
OH- and keep up the great blog!
I ANSWERED: Hi! Thanks for reading and writing I have to start by reminding the readers that you said, “I would like your opinion.” PLEASE remember that this is just what it is: MY OPINION. Its not right or wrong, its just what worked for US and what led to the success of Potty Training our 1st son Rocco.
In regards to Potty Training, its important not to compare your child to others. (and its hard) Every child is different and reacts differently to new situations. Some children need you to be matter of fact with them, others need charts for potty training, some need rewards, others need and like to be taught while some fight it and want to do everything on their own time. Some do it 100% on their own with no help. and WHEN? It happens for some when they turn 2 and others by the time they are 4. Point being- ITS OK! IT WILL HAPPEN!
As I thought about my reply to you and what advice I would give you regarding what I did, how long it took, etc. I remember trying everything which I’m not going to write out. Instead in the next paragraph, I’ll tell you what DID work. Rocco gave me mixed signals at an early age and I rolled with it. He didn’t revert back because I stopped pushing it and trying different things and then I let it happen on his terms. I was one that made a chart:
Had a bowl of m&m’s:
Read books: This one in particular-
We tried undies, then naked-ness…. Gosh, this seems like forever and a day ago but it wasn’t. Even Roman took the potty to the family room one night and showed him how its done (12 mo. old):
After I tried everything, I told myself, “I’m done & this will happen he’s ready.” What you need to remember is that once your son gets it and it happens, its done & there’s no going back. (some would disagree) I could tell you the details about what I did, what I tried, what I read, the 7/8 steps to potty training, type the books, articles, etc. and explain to you how much I stressed…. Instead, this is what finally worked with us.
First and foremost, ROCCO WAS READY. I recommend stopping whatever your doing and LETTING HIM decide when he wants to go and when its time. He’ll know when he’s ready. Recommended by our Pediatrician– We began referring to the bathroom as the “Pee Pee Place” or “Poo Poo Place”. All you need to do is pave the way for him to succeed. Put a potty in the bathroom and start telling him EVERY time you go. “Mommy’s going pee in the pee pee place. Do you need to go too?” If he says “no.” You say, “OK.” Done. You go and don’t mention it further. Any time Rocco was pooping somewhere around the house (in his diaper), I told him, “Rocco we don’t poop (ex. “by the couch”). We poop in the pooping place (bath room). Go poop in there.” I walked him to the bathroom and LET him poop IN HIS DIAPER, IN THE BATHROOM. He could take book, a toy, anything in there with him but you want to get him VERY familiar with the BATHROOM and that is where you go pee & poop. Eventually, he will start telling you. Rocco would say, “I need to go to the poopy place!” I opened the door, he went in and went to the bathroom but NOT on the potty. After a little while of that, Rocco became VERY comfortable with the bathroom and through talking and ‘trying’, he began ‘trying’ on the potty–1st the little potty, then the big toilet. Some times Rocco would even say yes to trying and then get scared and want the diaper back on. FINE. Over time, it was like a light switch and before I knew it, we were calling the “Pee Pee Place” a BATHROOM and he no longer went in his diaper but in the actual potty. Then within 1-2 weeks, he was trained 24/7.
ASIDE FROM MY STORY (which will be different with Roman, I’m SURE)
I will also send you off to read some of the following:
Potty watch- A watch that reminds your child to try to go to the potty (you can set it for 30, 60, 90 minutes)…start at 30 min. Something that worked for us too!
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