Bully

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If you’ve been with us for some time, you may remember when I had a ‘blog hater’ (aka. bully) a long while back.  She was like a stray cat to me.  If I fed her, she’d come back the next day.  Long story short, I didn’t feed her and wouldn’t post her nonsense.  She left… moved onto the next victim.  Its been a long while since I’ve had someone new come along that felt the need to call names, degrade and write inappropriate things… Bullies come and go though; we all know that.  It’s quite simple how I look at this ‘blog thing’:

If you don’t like a blog, there are millions out there; find another.

The other day, I wrote a post about Roman’s Family Birthday Party.  You may remember this post.  I posted it for whoever wanted to read, look at the pictures, take a tip or two for your own construction party, and about 24 hours later, I opened my e-mail to this comment from a woman named Janet (who I don’t know):

Young Lady– You need to get down on your knees this evening and ask God to reveal some things to you. Your post exudes a heart and mind full of pride, arrogance and materialism.  Ask God to forgive you and to release you from these bondage’s!  Hebrews 13:5 says “Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”  I believe you when you write that you consider yourself to be “a child of God” – but you have gone astray!  You may be blinded to how things are right now.  Please consider my words prayerfully.  I’m far from perfect myself but I was astonished at what I see posted here.  I will pray for you today.  Also – your comment section says “Speak your mind” – you asked for what is on my mind. Post this to show that you have integrity.” -Janet

I’d like to publicly reply to Janet since the email address that she posted along with her comment is a fake address.

Dear Janet,

To me, you’re like another stray cat that entered this platform and I have no desire to feed you.  However, since you questioned my integrity, I’ll be happy as to not only post this but I’ll give you your own post; this one.  And then if you come back, I’ll click the delete button until you go away for good.  Bullies are not wanted here.  It’s clear that you are much older than me (calling me, “young lady”) and the thought of an older woman taking time out of her life to ‘hate’ on a young, pregnant mother of 2 is just sad.  Since you don’t know where my heart is, this blog is meant to encourage and inspire other moms through sharing recipes, ideas, tips, real life stories and more.  That’s what I’m about here.  And yes, I have a ‘Style’ section and I like ‘things’: home goods, clothes, shoes, handbags, accessories, jeans… ‘THINGS’.  Last I checked, we all like ‘things’ no matter what the times are like and no matter what amount of money remains in our bank accounts- We are all ‘materialistic’ in some way.  This blog shares our real life PiggyToes adventures and if you are a regular reader and/or FB fan, you would see that I share all parts of those adventures, not just the frills of our lives.  I have always been open about sharing our flaws too as we are in no way, perfect. At. All.

For you to come here and point the finger, call names and question who I am and what I’m about tells me that you are not a frequent reader.  I believe you came across Roman’s little birthday party post and it was just too much for you to handle that day.  And I’ll even venture off to believe that this all stems way deeper for you.  Why do I think that?  Because you are located in San Francisco.  I had to laugh.  Have you seen or heard about the birthday parties that parents throw in San Francisco?  The carousels, petting zoos, bouncy houses and more… I’m sure they aren’t all like that but its not like you are writing to me from a 3rd world country. Don’t come to our blog and post such cruel and mean-spirited comments in my little boy’s birthday party post that was full of family, homemade food and some streamers and balloons.  And then bring God into it.

Lastly, while speaking of God, I just have to thank you for your prayers.  Whether you are praying out of love or out of hate, you are lifting my name up to Heaven and that’s always cool with me.  God knows exactly what to do with me (and you for that matter).  Please find another blog to read as its clear that ours is not suited for you.

Angelique

Dear PiggyToes Fans,

From my experience, I can guarantee you that Janet will be back.  If you want, you can write to her in the comment section below.  I hope that none of you out there are dealing with a bully and if you are or if you have, feel free to also share how you got rid of them.  I’m sure we can all learn something here.  I’m constantly learning from you; my sweet blog world friends!


xo

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Comments

  1. Megan says:

    Janet,
    I am so sad for you as it seems you have a lot of hate in your heart. I am a fellow believer and I am afraid that it’s posts like these that make Christians look bad. I find it interesting that you pick out parts of the Bible to suit what your feeling. Many of God’s people in His word were blessed with financial wealth. What would you say to them? I pray that you can find the love and freedom in Jesus Christ.

  2. Gina says:

    She a crazy loon and has too much time on her hands because she is lonely. Probably even childless and doesn’t understand motherhood. So the only way to get attention is to be a bully, you are right, she needs to go away, but get help and not from God. She needs to seek medical attention and then ask GOD for forgiveness because she probably hurt a lot of people in her life and that is why she is lonley and bitter.

    • jimmie lee says:

      I obviously do not agree with how Janet went about voicing her opinion, but don’t you think this is bully-like as well? calling her a crazy loon, declaring she needs medical attention, assuming she is childless?
      We don’t know her story either. And maybe just maybe we need to turn the other cheek (i actually hate that saying) and lift this woman up as well.
      Just a thought…
      A stone for a stone never turns out good.

  3. Becky says:

    Ok- obviously this Janet does not know you AT ALL or she would never have written that! I am just so surprised at what people THINK they know. Kristi- think nothing of it. You are a wonderfully made Child of God. People just try to bring others down to lift themselves up… and Janet… that is not admirable.

  4. La'Tavia says:

    Janet, I do not understand why you would write anything to put down Angelique. As a woman you should be encouraging and uplifting to anyone, even your enemies. If you can’t love, respect and encourage a innocent woman, then who can you uplift.

  5. I can’t believe she would say this to you after posting such wonderful photos of your family – such a special day. Please don’t let her ruin the memory of your son’s birthday. She isn’t worth it.
    Stay strong mama – and I hope you are still feeling well!
    Leigh

    • Lynn Badamo says:

      My name is Lynn Badamo and I am Angelique’s mother. After hearing this letter I was very disheartened! I’m not responding because my daughter needs me to defend her as she has always been very independent, I’m responding because of the use of God’s word to take a stab at her life. Most of us really don’t know how people look at us, or what they think of us. We usually go along hoping that we are accepted for who we are and who we’d like to be. I have to say that I am nothing but proud of my daughter! She is and always has been a lovely and talented young lady, loves the Lord, devoted to Brian her husband and adores her boys. When she decided to begin blogging her father and I were a bit skeptical because of things just like this….haters! No matter what the reason Janet responded in this way, this is by NO means a godly way to encourage young woman to be devoted to God. So that said, I could write a book but first I will say that I love my daughter deeply and I want to share a few scriptures that take a real look at how we all should behave if we call ourselves children of God.

      The first is: Galatians 6:1
      Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted.

      I agree ….a spirit of love and gentleness!

      and second: Titus 2: 3 – 5
      Likewise, older women are to show their reverence for God by their behavior. They are not to be gossips or addicted to alcohol, but to be examples of goodness. That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, and to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

      That is a mouthful for sure! We all could use help to be better at this! As I share these scriptures, I’m not admitting that my daughter’s heart and motivations were out of line. Simply put, she just wanted to do the best she could to CELEBRATE our little Roman on his 3rd birthday. BTW…it was a lovely party and fun was had by all who attended..especially Roman.

      Janet, I will be praying for you that the love of God would be shed abroad in your heart, that you become and encourager of all of the young woman that God puts in your path. It also would be nice for you to send an apology to Angelique, I think that is in order!

      Angelique’s Mom!
      Lynn Badamo

      • jimmie lee says:

        Lynn,
        You are a wise woman and I think you gracefully handled this negativity against your daughter. There is a gentle way to ‘rebuke’ so to speak (if it is needed) and you should always be coming out of love not hate or bitterness. Love and a gentle spirit can get a lot accomplished. I think you have both :)
        Well said mama, well said!

      • Lynn Badamo says:

        Thank you Jimmie Lee!

  6. Caity says:

    To me, Janet sounds less like a bully than an extreme evangelical – like one of those people who would stand outside of a football game with a sandwich board sign telling people they’re going to hell because they are putting sports before God (yes, there were quite a few of those people when I went to the Super Bowl in Tampa). I wouldn’t take her comment personally. I could see her going around to a lot of blogs written by young moms and writing the exact same thing. Not that there’s an excuse for it, but she just seems like a misguided individual thinking she is “saving” people.

  7. Samantha says:

    Totally agree with the poster above- Caity. This ‘Janet’ person obviously doesn’t know you personally and just took the mere fact that you were celebrating a milestone to be blasphemy. You are a wonderful person! Anyone who truly knows you is aware of how sweet and giving you are. Don’t let people like that ruin your blogging experience. Remember that you have family and friends who can’t watch your little ones grow up on a daily basis who rely on these posts to share in the special moments with them. I’m so grateful for your posts. Ignore this ‘Janet’ and any other who may come along. They aren’t the reason you blog — we are! :] Love you and miss you. xoxoxo.

  8. Tonie says:

    Well, my lovely Angelique…I will not dedicate any additional time to ANYONE that would chose to throw stones at you instead of encouraging and supporting you. I will however, take the time to tell you how much I love you. And, how proud I am of the beautiful woman, wife and mother you have become. I am in love with your blog as it provides me the opportunity to feel connected to you, the boys and Brian. Your blog takes some of the sting out of living away from my hometown, my cissy, my momma and you all. You are wonderful…Love, Aunt Tonie

  9. sam m. says:

    Angelique,

    Well done. I am proud of you for standing up to this woman, and supporting what you stand for, and not letting her get to you. You’re photo is exactly right; “haters gonna hate.” And frankly, I’ve never understood someone who considers themselves to be religious, and then hates on others, for any reason. It does not seem a very religious thing to do to me.

  10. angela says:

    Wow, I can’t believe this. I know Angelique personally and she is a good person. Her heart in no way exudes those things! In fact, when we met, I said a prayer to thank God for my new sweet friend!

    It is pretty crazy to me, that someone would pick on her blog. The internet is full of hate, evil, pornography, lies, scams, and bad things. Why on earth would someone pick on a blog of a mother who is just writing and sharing her day to day?

    And finally, I don’t care how old you are, Janet…didn’t your mother teach you that if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all?

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